The solicitor was a bit scary and made me feel really small and crappy and she was also very negative about everything and when i explained why the i didn't want the pixies going to stay with Andy in Stoke as it would be too upsetting and confusing for them she didn't seem to think this was relevant and told me Andy should see them every weekend ! which i think upset me more than anything i feel helpless as a mummy that what i think is best for my pixies doesn't seem to matter :( but am hoping to keep the children seeing their dad between me and Andy as solicitors only seem to see in black and white .
On a happier note the pixies are doing well ,Ben has started a really lovely playgroup which we went to visit the other day ,its all play based and has all the activity's like painting and books and sand all set up and the children can chose what they want to play with .They also have a amazing outside area which they let the children play in whatever the weather :) Ben settled in really quick and looks forward to going in the mornings and is always really excited and happy when i pick him up which is really lovely to see and he is always got a lovely piece of art ,today's was a beautiful fish which we hung in the kitchen window .
Ben spent the afternoon looking for insects in the garden with his magnifying glass . He has also invented a new game called 'ball chase' which is a bit like football and rugby :) and involves lots of rolling on the floor .
Daisy is a happy little imp and always wants to be in the garden and has learnt how to put her wellys on herself but still prefers bare foot :)
Daisy playing 'roun roun' which is simply running round and round the garden .
Doodles has got herself a cough so is going to be going to the vets to make sure shes all ok , we went out last week and when we got back she had puked up a strange collection of furry limbs on the carpet ! which i first thought was a rabbit but after a autopsy we discovered it was a cuddly Lema that my mum has sat on her computer ,doodles had chewed its arms and legs off and left this poor Lema body sat on the sofa :( so goodness knows what the vet might find when they examine her !
(((hugs)) hon, the solicitors really make you feel so small don't they? They did with me anyway. Never mind them telling you about when and where your ex should or shouldn't see your pixies. You are their mummy and you know best. I think sometimes they forget it's a real persons' life they are dealing with.
ReplyDeleteYour little pixies are adorable by the way! :)
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ReplyDeleteBe firm hon at the end of the day the solicitor works for you and has to do as you ask - she act as superior etc as she likes but like I say she works for you - not the other way round.. and if she wasn't open to what you want then I would suggest seeing a different solicitor.
Hug Lucy - I'm with Joxy - she is in your pay to do you a service therefore you need to be happy with the level of the service she is providing! Glad to see the pixies looking so cheery x
ReplyDeletei too am with Joxy xx and isnt doodles a naughty sausage xx
ReplyDeleteLovely to see you posting again. I have been thinking about you and your lovely children lots and hoping that you are finding things to smile and laugh about at this painful time. I really admire your strength.
ReplyDeleteIf it's ok, could you email me your address (miaeileen@aol.com) as I have a little parcel to send you :)
Brightest blessings
Gina xxx